An Angel of A Far Away Star

In times of trouble we should

Lift our hearts and thoughts to a star

To lift us out of the problem or mud

To look with love from afar


The tangle can be changed or cut

With a heavenly view from above

Sometimes it will grow right

But pray that in all it was done with love


And sometimes together life pushes the times to be tough

But still lift your heart and thoughts to that far away star

And try to be as the angels there above

So we can look at life with love in our hearts


A wise and beautiful woman once told me

“Work stays at work and home stays at home”

So may we do our best to be in those times happy

You must keep going whether together or alone


Yes I miss her beauty and the sound of her voice

And she helped me to smile at times on a rough course

I know I must keep trying to do good through all the noise

To choose a path of a happy life as always the better choice


Wishes and actions towards all others

Should only be made with love

Not anger for past bad words, actions or lies

Stop it quick, so we graduate naturally one day to the stars above


And maybe that way we will sometime get to see

In the heavens a beautiful glimpse of the face of an angel

Who once helped you to smile laugh and sing.


Someone To Lean Upon? It Is Really 4 to 1

Sometime we surround ourselves with things and people

In efforts to make the hours a little more agreeable


But cars houses and big stereo speakers

Really don’t make your life complete or any sweeter


Because just when you think you’ve got something to lean upon

People change, things break, whatever it is, it’s gone


Realizing all these things can be taken away

Something else must get you through your day


But from where on earth does that something come

I’ve fallen down so much that my knees are numb


Does it come from ourselves way deep inside?

The ephemeral entities will never let you hide


And there you are again, you are there by yourself

Are you happy there, or is it hell.


It’s not what you have, or how many people you know

It’s what you won’t stand for, when everyone else says go


And are they happy without any regrets

Do they abuse alcohol, or those damn cigarettes?


No more high school popularity, or even the new person in a new town

Just when I thought I needed people the most, they were there to let me down


Well I am doing better and go now much more to the good places

And I know there isn’t much lasting pleasure in any of the rat races


And those people at the poolside who have learned to relax

Are not really degenerates or some sub cultured class


They are just the folks who have come to realize

That we need people and even earned or unearned rest in all of our lives


So the lessons I’ve learned I will not belabor

I will slow it down, and know even an apartment or next door neighbor


Nobody likes to hurt anyone and nobody likes being alone

And you have got to remember that you are not the only one


We all must deal with the nice white lies of “no you don’t look overweight”, or the mother bear over protecting her young

But it is important truths that keep us safe, law abiding, together, and give us something lasting to cling to and to stand upon


And as we choose the thoughts we sleep with, we wrinkle the next day’s bed

But soon you will realize Just who’s responsible, for straitening your own head


And now, when you need to relax and you must go at the moment amongst the devil alone

Turn to Jesus, God, and the Holy Spirit of Goodness, breathe these three into your one


ca 1991, and 2015

Robert E. Lee Notes


  1. 49: Cadet Lee survived four years at West Point without incurring a single demerit. If he were ever late to class or if his shoes were ever unblacked, no one in authority caught him. Such a record was rare but not unheard of. In fact, five other members of the class of 1829 were equally unscathed. A survey conducted in 1831 revealed that 150 cadets were then enrolled had received less than 50 demerits, 88 cadets less than 100, 34 less than 150 demerits, & 16 had received between 150 and 200. Lee ordered to rules and regulations; he remained in control of himself. West Point prescribed obedience and punished initiative. Lee proved to himself and others that he could adapt to such an environment and thrive in a small world of schedules and standards.
  2. 54: As Lee prepared to graduate, he received the balance which remained in his account book: $103.58. The $10 per month he earned while an acting assistant professor of mathematics made possible much of this positive balance. Nevertheless, Lee was an extremely frugal cadet; most men at West Point never saw a positive balance in four years.
  3. 80: “The truth is this: The march of Providence is so slow and our desires so impatient; the work of progress is so immense and our means of aiding it so feeble; the life of humanity is so long, that of the individual so brief, that we often see only the ebb of the advancing wave and are thus discouraged. It is history that teaches us hope.”
  4. 132: Consider what Lee had done. Early on August 19 he had crossed the Pedregal, led some of Scott’s army into conflict with Valencia’s troops, and the led and directed three brigades into Valencia’s rear. Then he had retraced his steps in the dark and ran back to Scott’s headquarters the same night he had recrossed the Pedregal, guided the demonstrations in Valencia’s front, and observed the triumph at Contreras on the morning of August 20. Next he had scouted the road from San Antonio to Churubusco, returned to Scott, and then guided troops to a crucial flank attach on the road beyond Churubusco. Once the enemy was in full flight, Lee had joined the pursuit. He had been awake and active for 36 hours (at least) crossing the Pedregal twice in the dark, and led the U.S. forces to crucial positions in two separate battles – into Valencia’s rear at Contreras and to Santa Anna’s flank at Churubusco. After these thirty-six hours, Lee deserved a sound sleep.

In his reports of the battles, Scott wrote of “the gallant, indefatigable Captain Lee” and of Lee “as distinguished for felicitous execution as for science and daring.” Later Scott termed Lee’s actions during the night of August 19 “the greatest feat of physical and moral courage performed by any individual in my knowledge…” For Contreras and Churubusco Lee eventually received brevet promotion to lieutenant colonel.

P.137: “If the war with Mexico had been wrong in Course … “If this retrograde step would restore us our glorious dead, I should be content. It would rather tend to condemn their devotion to their country & the next step will be to convict them of Suicide.”

  1. 139: “I wish I was out of the Army myself,” he told Custis. And to Carter Lee he wrote that he would “make a strong effort” to leave the Army. But once more he remained in uniform – most likely because he knew he could find nothing that he liked better and because he knew he was a very good soldier.
  2. 149: That April (1851) Lee found some excuse to visit West Point and see his son. He heard good news from the officers and instructors about Custis’s performance. But the young man must have been homesick and to his father he must have seemed unsure of his capacity. Lee wrote to his oldest son soon after he returned to Baltimore and devoted the first page to encouraging words. He wrote about “strength”, “fortitude,” “industry,” “firm resolve,” “courageouse heart,” and more. In conclusion, though, Lee simply asked Custis to make his best effort. “I shall then be content & you must not be disappointed.”
  3. 152: Small wonder that Custis complained in March of melancholy. Robert Lee wrote once again to his son, and once again revealed his own philosophy:

Shake off those gloomy feelings. Drive them away. Fix your mind & pleasures on what is before you….All is bright if you will think it so. All is happy if you will make it so. Do not dream. It is too ideal, too imagery. Dreaming by day, I mean. Live in the world you inhabit. Look upon things as they are. Take them as you find them. Make the best of them. Turn them to your advantage.

  1. 157: Then he introduced the relative merits of a school in a country versus a school in a city and implied that the former offered fewer temptations. “Young men must not expect to escape contact with evil,” Lee counseled, “but must learn not to be contaminated by it. That virtue is worth but little requires constant watching & removal from temptation.” As Lee wrote this, he was quite well aware that “constant watching” and “removal from temptation” were hallmarks of the West Point system.
  2. 160: After learning his catechism at his mother’s knee before he could read; after attending the Episcopal Church quite regularly and serving on the vestry of St. John’s Church, Brooklyn; after speaking and writing for many years the rhetoric of evangelical Protestants and Low Church Anglicans, at age forty-six Lee finally, formally joined the church. Why did he wait so long?

Lee was the product of strong religious impulses within his family and community. He revered the church, at least the Protestant Church, and appropriated its language and the essentials of its doctrine. But Lee was a very private person, and his religious response was private as well. He avoided sectarian exclusivity and believed expansively. Lee did proper things and said correct words; but his piety was practical, grounded in this world, however much he intoned or wrote his litany about dead souls rising to joy in heaven.

Lee certainly believed in sin. Had the church not taught the doctrine of original sin, Lee would have invented it. The human condition was flawed, he believed, and the fatal flaw was absorption with self. Conversely Lee believed that “the great duty of life” is “the promotion of the happiness & welfare of our fellow men.” Good Christians, Lee believed, attempted to make selflessness a habit and eventually an instinctive response to any situation. But even the best Christians failed in this effort because of the evil inherent in human beings. So God resolved this dilemma with His grace and forgiveness.

Although Lee couched his beliefs in evangelical rhetoric, he believed beyond evangelicalism. Lee’s response to God was selflessness, self-control, and service to others. God’s response to Lee was freedom.

Lee’s religious life underwent no significant change following his confirmation. He presented himself to Bishop Johns to acknowledge his relation to the church. He probably also wanted to support his daughter’s conviction, and he wanted to honor his mother-in-law’s piety.

  1. 171: Mary Lee continued her decline in general health, and her rheumatism was fast rendering her an invalid. She went to mineral springs each summer; but any relief she experienced proved temporary. Robert Lee encouraged her to go and counseled her to “indulge yourself in as much mental enjoyment as circumstances will permit” and so “turn as far as possible your affliction to your benefit.”

This latter phrase became a theme in Lee’s life. To various people, at various times Lee said: “… there is nothing stable on earth,” “Live in the world you inhabit,” “When a thing is done we ought to make the best of it,” “We make a great deal of our own happiness and misery in the world,” and “turn… your affliction to your benefit.” In time Lee would have increasing opportunities to take his own advice.

  1. 190: Robert Lee would have been most in danger in his own bed. In a real sense, Lee went to war in order to avoid conflict.
  2. 218: One factor in Lee’s easy transit from national crisis to matters mundane was his incredible capacity to cope – to make the best of practically any situation to resist temptation to brood or bewail his fate. With the Confederacy nearly “in extremis” and his career, family, life, and world in grave danger, Lee could satisfy himself that he had done all he could do, invoke blessings from God, and try to secure some shirts that fit.
  3. 226: Joseph Christmas Ives on Lee to Edward Porter Alexander: “Alexander, if there is one man in either army, Federal or Confederate, who is head & shoulders, far above every other one in either army in audacity that man is Gen. Lee, and you will very soon have lived to see it. Lee is audacity personified. His name is audacity…..
  4. 259 Comments on the southern army:

“They were the dirtiest men I ever saw, a most ragged, lean, and hungry set of wolves. Yet there was a dash about them that the Northern men lacked. They rode like circus riders. Many of them were from the far South and spoke a dialect I could scarcely understand. They were profane beyond belief and talked incessantly.”

“When I say they were hungry, I convey no impression of the gaunt starvation that looked from their cavernous eyes….I saw the troops march past us every summer for four years, and I know something of the appearance of a marching army, both Union and Southern. There are always stragglers, of course, but never before or after did I see anything comparable to the demoralized state of the Confederates at this time. Never want and exhaustion more visibly put before my eyes, and that they could march or fight at all seemed incredible.”

  1. 277: Walter Taylor found the general in foul humor one day when he had to bring some tedious correspondence to Lee’s attention. Taylor knew that Lee “had a great dislike to reviewing army communications…,” and on this occasion, “he was not in a very pleasant mood; something irritated him, and he manifested his ill-humor by a little nervous twist or jerk of the neck and head, peculiar to himself, accompanied by some harshness manner.” Taylor presented the necessary papers as expeditiously as he could. But “in disposing of some case of a vexatious character, matters reached a climax; he became really worried…” Taylor, caught up in Lee’s mood, “petulantly threw the paper down at my side and gave evident signs of anger. Then in a perfectly calm and measured tone of voice, he said, ‘Colonel Taylor, when I lose my temper don’t let it make you angry.’”
  2. 303: Defeat at Gettysburg was Lee’s fault—in part because he decided to risk boldly and lost, but principally because of who Lee was. He was a soldier who preferred to suggest rather than order, a general who attempted to lead from consensus and shrank from confrontation. He insisted upon making possible for others the freedom of thought and action he sought for himself.
  3. 333: While Yankee soldiers stormed into the Mule Shoe, Lee had no time to call someone to his tent and talk to him; so he attempted to perform the difficult tasks by himself rather than delegate to others. But Robert Lee could not win the war all by himself. For Lee, the gratification of a “death wish” would have constituted cowardice.
  4. 350: But Lee’s record of victories during the two previous years had inspired vaulting confidence within the army and throughout the country. And as the siege of Petersburg and Richmond protracted while the military disasters multiplied elsewhere, Lee became even more revered as some sort of miracle maker. He had wrested triumph from impending doom in the past; surely he would do so again. Only afterward did Lee become a suffering saint, the South’s Christ figure; in the trenches Lee was still a Southern Joshua.
  5. 353: At Petersburg, more people than Lee were frustrated and discolate. So they remembered Lee in context and told stories about him that reflected their mood as well as his. The stories during this period emphasize sacrifice, duty, and other stoic virtues. One exception is Long’s tale of Lee remaining under artillery fire in order to pick up a baby sparrow and replace the bird in its nest. Here was Lee selflessly trying against odds to bring redemption to the battlefield. But Long, who told the story, and J. William Jones, who repeated it, emphasized Lee’s “love for the lower animals,” his concern for the helpless, and “a heart so tender.”
  6. 372 – Some time after the surrender of the south.

But soon after he returned to Richmond, Lee once more confounded those who considered him uncomplicated. The occasion was communion at St. Paul’s Church on a Sunday in June. The reverend Dr. Charles Minegerode was still rector of the parish; St. Paul’s was (and is) just across the street from Capitol Square, and during the war a list of communicants read like a Who’s Who of the Confederacy. At this particular service, as soon as Minegerode delivered the invitation to the people to come forward to receive the consecrated bread and wine, a tall, well-dressed, very black man stood and strode to the rail. The followed a pregnant pause. According to one witness, “Its effect upon the communicants was startling, and for several moments they retained their seats in solemn silence and did not move, being deeply chagrined at this attempt to inaugurate the ‘new regime’ to offend and humiliate them…. Dr. Minegerode was evidently embarrassed.”

Then another person rose from the pew and walked down the aisle to the chancel rail. He knelt near the black man and so redeemed the circumstance. This grace-bringer, of course, was Lee. Soon after he knelt, the rest of the congregation followed his example and shuffled in turn to the rail. Once again Lee’s actions were far more eloquent than anything he ever spoke or wrote.

  1. 391: Once while at a social gathering he asked Christina Bond to accompany him

“I will go, General Lee, under your orders.” “Not under my orders,” Lee protested, “but it will gratify me deeply to have your assistance.” Bond recalled:

And so we crossed the great room, but under brilliant crystal chandelier he paused, and spoke words which went to the soul of his young hearers. He told of the grief with which he found a spirit of unreasoning resentment and bitterness in the young people of the South, of the sinfulness of hatred and social revenge, of the duty of kindness, helpfulness, and consideration of other.

Then the young woman asked, “But, General Lee, did you never feel resentment towards the North? Christina Bond’s story continued:

Standing in the radiance of the myriad lighted crystals his face took on a far-away, almost inspired look, as his hand involuntarily sought his breast. He spoke in low, earnest tones: “I believe I may say, looking into my own heart, and speaking in the presence of my God, that I have never known one moment of bitterness or resentment.

Lee had become a Christ figure for Southerners. “Blessed are ye when men shall revile you and persecute you and shall say all manner of evil against you…” “Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you….”

Lee was a realist. The war was over: he had lost. He did not understand the dimensions of race or the zeal of Northern politicians; but he realized that victors can impose their will upon the vanquished. So he worked within a legal framework that shifted, and he settled in the knowledge that the opportunity for resistance was long gone.

  1. 397: A new student once asked President Lee (of Washington College) for a copy of the rules of Washington College. Lee replied, “Young gentleman, we have no printed rules of Washington College. We have but one rule here, and it is that every student must be a gentleman.”

What did Lee mean when he used the word “gentleman”? Found among his papers after his death was the following statement:

…the manner is which an individual enjoys certain advantages over others is the test of a true gentleman.

The power which the strong have over the weak, the magistrate over the citizen, the employer over the employed, the educated over the unlettered, the experienced over the confiding, even the clever over the silly—the forbearing or inoffensive use of all this power or authority, or a total absence from it when the case admits it, will show the gentleman in plain light. The gentleman does not needlessly or unnecessarily remind an offender of the wrong he may have committed against him. He can not only forgive, he can forget; and he strives for that nobleness of self and mildness of character which impart sufficient strength to let the past be the past.

A true gentleman of honor feels humbled himself when he cannot help humbling others.

MDC’s COMMENTS: The author offered no explanation (comment yes) of this last bit of extended almost double negative statement, but here I believe Lee means that when a leader or person of authority who is of the mind of a gentleman must inflict discipline or punishment to others as necessary for their development or execution of judgment of the law, a gentleman in that position also is humbled to the extent of feeling the others’ pain. Therefore, if Lee had to humble others in performing his duties, he also felt humbled.

A very interesting statement, this; certainly it reveals Lee’s convictions about ethics and relationships. But it may reveal more beside. Substitute “God” for “true gentleman” and Lee has offered an intriguing theological insight. The series of metaphors remains valid, and Lee says what he believes about the nature of God. God, for Lee, is the ultimate manifestation of the “forbearing or inoffensive use of all this power or authority.” God, in Lee’s understanding, “can not only forgive, he can forget,” and if God does not wish to humble people, it follows that God is on the side of exalting them. In this light Lee’s statement about the true gentleman is not only code, but credo.

Lee’s one-rule standard produced the honor system, which soon became the practical definition of a “gentleman” at Washington College. A gentleman does not lie, cheat, or steal; nor does a gentleman tolerate lying, cheating, or dishonesty in those persons claiming to be gentlemen.

  1. 399: “Education embraces the physical, moral and intellectual instruction of a child from infancy to manhood.” Lee wrote, and continued, “Any system is imperfect which does not combine them all….” In accord with his belief in some form of evolution, Lee lauded an educational system that “abases the coarse animal emotions of human nature & exalts the higher faculties and feelings.” To secure obedience, Lee posed, “Neither violence nor harshness should ever be used, and the parent must bear constantly in mind, that to govern this child, he must show him that he can control himself.” By “patient kindness and gentle admonition,” Lee believed parents can accomplish far more than by resorting to threats and punishment.
  2. 401: One of Lee’s students who later became an instructor at Washington College came first to the school in 1860 and returned in 1866 after four years in the army of Northern Virginia. Milton W. Humphreys resumed his academic career with zeal—so much zeal that he injured his health. President Lee noticed that Humphreys was working too hard and told him so. Humphreys acknowledged that he was indeed studying more than was good for his body and explained, “I am so impatient to make up for the time I lost in the army.” Then Lee turned immediately red and interrupted the student-veteran, “Mr. Humphreys! However long you live and whatever you accomplish, you will find that the time you spent in the Confederate army was the most profitably spent portion of your life. Never again speak of having lost time in the army.” Robert Lee passionately believed this. Milton Humphreys may or may not have believed it. But Humphreys never again spoke of losing time in Lee’s army.
  3. 414: Lee knew frustration full measure. He experienced far more than his share of failure. Better than most people, Lee was aware of the constraints, the bounds, which characterize human condition. But he was a hero. Lee was a hero because of his response to that human condition that constrained him. He all but defined self-control and obeyed rules meticulously; yet he did so in order to be independent, to be free. Lee spent himself, gave his life away, because he believed that evil was selfishness. “Dissimilar as are characters, intellects, & situations. The great duty of life is the same, the promotion of the happiness & welfare of our fellow men”



Meantime, General Lee, who had camped near Warrenton for the night, hearing nothing from Stuart as to the …movements of the enemy, remained awake until very late at night in order to make preparations… for the early movements of his army. Goode made his way safely through the Federal columns, and arrived at headquarters about one o’clock in the morning.

General Lee, after listening by the camp-fire to Goode’s account of Stuart’s situation, retired to his tent. The scout, however, being very anxious in regard to General Stuart’s danger, began after the general retired, to explain more fully with the map to an aide-de-camp the relative positions of Stuart’s and the enemy forces, and the exact point where the fire of our artillery would be most effective in promoting his safe retreat from his perilous environment.

General Lee could hear from his tent something of this conversation, but caught from it only that Goode was talking of matters which scouts, as a rule, were permitted to tell only to the commanding general himself. So, coming to the door of his tent, he called out with stern voice that he did not wish scouts to talk in camp. He spoke very angrily, and stepped back into his tent. Goode fairly trembled. The aide-de-camp, however, went forward to the general’s tent and told him that the scout, who was devoted to Stuart and naturally very anxious for his safety, was only endeavoring to mark accurately on the map the point at which the diversion of the artillery fire was to be made, and was by no means talking from the mere desire to talk. General Lee came out at once from his tent, commanded his orderly to have supper with hot coffee put on the table for Goode, made him sit in his own camp-chair at the table, stood at the fire nearby, and performed all the duties of the hospitable host to the fine fellow. Few generals ever made such thorough amends to a private soldier for an injustice done him in anger. (A. L. Long, Memoirs of Robert E. Lee (p. 309-10))

Leaders and Managers must recognize that no matter how well intended, apologies are face-savings acts. As a leader, you must recognize when you unintentionally hurt someone, apologies are critical. Perhaps your behavior was well intended; perhaps you were operating out of misinformation, urgency, or chaos. Regardless, the impact on others can be devastating. Your ability to “own up” and admit you mistake—apologize—will only raise your status in the eyes of others. Apologies are the heart’s way of reminding the ego that everyone has value, the someone else besides you is important.

  1. 41 ON EMPATHY

I was at the battle of Gettysburg myself, and an incident occurred there which largely changed my views of the Southern people. I had been a most bitter anti-South man, and fought and cursed the Confederates desperately. I could see nothing good in any of them. The last day of the fight I was badly wounded. A ball shattered my left leg. I lay on the ground not far from Cemetery Ridge, and as General Lee ordered his retreat he and his officers rode near me. As they came along I recognized him, and though faint from exposure and loss of blood, I raised up my hands, looked Lee in the face, and shouted as loud as I could, “Hurrah for the Union!” The general heard me, looked, stopped his horse, dismounted, and came toward me. I confess that I at first thought he meant to kill me. But as he came up he looked down at me with such a sad expression upon his face that all fear left me, and I wondered what he was about. He extended his hand to me, and grasping mine firmly and looking right into my eyes, said, “My son, I hope you will soon be well.”

If I live a thousand years, I shall never forget the expression on General Lee’s face. There he was defeated, retiring from a field that had cost him and his cause almost to their last hope, and yet he stopped to say words like those to a wounded soldier of the opposition who taunted him as he passed by! As soon as the general had left me I cried myself to sleep there upon the bloody ground. (A story reported by an old “Grand Army” man at Gettysburg in A.L. Long’s Memoirs of Robert E. Lee (p.302))

Data, logic, derailment assessment, and statistical analysis do not—and cannot—speak the same language as empathy. If you lead your organization through a thousand battles, you will not get much right if you don’t get the human side of the battle right.


May you make it through your hearts tough and lonely times

Until the one you would love, beckons you with some secret sign


And though she may deny it to you, you know it was her

Keep that to yourself as you did the secret of your love of her

And when you let her have the first, she’ll repeat tests without deter


Who knows if that love will turn gold or somehow come to pass

Do your best for your love and her needs while that spell lasts


For you know that you loved that love before ever even the first touch

A beauty, a sweetness, a desire, later proven it needed no other worldly crutch


Yes, it may have started innocent and you looked skimpily on beauty, every 2 weeks worth

Careful she may have the power, a different need of thee, but hopefully not a galled girl on earth


And you thought you knew better too than to play such a fool, fool, fool

But when love calls and you know it was love, then do what you must do


Looking back you don’t even know from where that love had ever come

Surely a higher source, perhaps way far far away and above the burdens we’ve done


And maybe you fell at times to worship the beauty of her, but she was nice too

Never let beauty or the making of love, be or become an idol of either of you two


Crazy love attraction and the spirit of goodness and honesty must be there, someway, for each of you, as the crazy, good and happy truth

That makes you both better, to be happy to see the other as a source of joy in the world, so that you know it’s best to always seek a truce


But if she fleets as all beauty will do, to measure and test you

As an angel from a far away star, do good for yourself, and all responsibilities of the two


Remember if someone judged you unworthy and planned something bad to play on you

Let it pass, do your best to minimize wrong, no revenge, no malice, let it pass to and through you

You must always want as close to as what you think God would do


Think you’ve studied what they say are God’s books and the music of his laws too?

Judged your life’s imperfect walk, some falls, some wasted money due

But still you want as close as to what you think God would do

Then, God may play you, the instrument, when the wind of life plays through


Be Strong, to be the instrument of goodness and to practice the golden rule

Be Strong, even when it does not seem right what has happened or what you have been through

Be Strong and do good even when this life goes without heart or love and feels like a ruse

And whether others have conspired, you do good for yourself and others all while in and out of their midst, you must keep to good and the truth.

Be Strong in doing right and best for all, for this I think God will smile on you


No there is no perfect person when there are two different points of view

But the one thing you must keep in mind: The love you two have or knew

May only be greater by the love of God for you, so remember, for the lonely times, to love Him too


So if you see the wild boar annoyed with too much anger at something different charges with too much muscled confidence

And dies, when his might dented no steel, a brave death, judged by the rules of that side, died so foolishly

Or if God’s crosswind uses a simple sweet minded bird that gets blown into its final steel wall or fence

God gave more to the bird, the life, the kind spirit, the death, heaven, in all it did not ask, innocence you see


Then before you know it, if it all that you treasure unravels with a Godly or ghastly whirl

Do your best to minimize hurt and wrong, to think and do the best for others as an angel of a far away star

And like the old forgotten movie you both saw separately, Starman, “Take Me With You” were indeed the words of her

After the dust settles, it may take years, to see what that whirlwind indeed was for

And then we get to hear the news and sometime see the photos, thank God for something nice for her family, two boys from her daughter


And surely their camp could look at the dust of the past

Paste it into a big stone and then keep it waiting to cast

But your heart knows you did your best good intent, among bad, for it to last

And the good memories and love are therein too, but maybe or maybe not, just past


May you make it through your hearts tough and lonely times to last

Hopefully they will forgive you, such that prayers and even good hopes are all that is cast

For everyone that goes through good and bad may say, for this life and tough time I did not ask

The life and the love was something we all hopefully get then and maybe sometime again, from high, and not ask


That golden light that lied beside you, not always could stay, to her homeland it was best to return

Things of gold on earth will always remain, beauty fleets and fades, and in the heart love burned


But without that beauty or a higher love, we never would have grown

To her, you breathed honestly, all the good that your past before had ever enjoyed or known

Yes, as they say, it is far better to have loved, than to just do all these things selfishly, or alone

Always watch and hear of the beauty of life, to tolerate the world’s wisdom and news of the bad to grow

And do your best to keep God’s commands as they can be a strength, or love of God, for the times you must be alone


So why are we here? Not just to be alone, but to listen to the teacher of our heart, to learn our lessons of how to love

And to Look Above and Rise Above, to Be Strong instruments of goodness through the good, the tough, and the wrong

To do good that, yes, maybe lasts here for just a bit, but those actions in life, done for no reward, are the ones that echo in eternity above and beyond


A bridge now far far away that moved to earth, a glimpse of heaven with heart and happiness, for a time

May you make it through your heart’s tough and lonely times

May the wind blow you to love and you both know the sign


Lost Friendships ?

And yet some things must pass away

Before some people are in the grave


Who’s to say when friendships stop

When they fizzle or when they’re hot


Does the friendship die and go to heaven?

Does it just get old and then uncertain?


Or, if it must be stopped for difficult reasons

Will there ever be a chance come next season?


But maybe there is the hope of a dormant tree

That it will blossum and again bear fruit to be seen


However, all things do come to pass

And God only knows how long they last


What we must do is enjoy them for their seasons

God let you borrow them in His wisdom and His reason


Myles Darien


December, 1994

Part of the Explanation

Some things in life just can’t be understood

Even when you’ve done the things you should


There are mysteries that won’t be figured out

Even if you are that good little boy scout


Why do ants build their houses in the dirt

Why do some get paid more than they are worth


Why there are some who can forgive

No matter what the other person did


Why there are those who will never forget

The verbal faux pas that others have said


Why there was love and then nothing at all

Why some people like to see old lovers fall


Why there are those who act on all their anger

And those who forgive no matter what the danger


Why are there those who betray those that trust

Why is love so easily confused with lust


Why is the truth never black or white

Just when does day turn into night


Why there are those who lie like the devil

Just to get others into a lot of trouble


Why does the criminal sometimes get away

Why do so many troubles come our way


And if we did cross from good boy to bad

What could restore the dignity we had


Such fine lines to divide and to discern

What was the price and what have we learned


Some things in life just can’t be understood

Even when you’ve done the things you should

                                                            Myles Darien


Guard Your Eyes

Does she turn you with her beauty

Or through the kindness of her heart

Was she quiet or really flirty

Just how did all of this find its start


Was the beauty all that you noticed

Or, did she not even give you a try

You must always be disciplined and devoted

And leary of the things which catch your eye


For when all is seen at the end of our lives

The beauty was never on the outside, but within

And the heart is the true view and guide

And is where true love blossoms and begins


So keep your eyes fixed on the goal in front

And don’t look at the distractions at your side

But when someone moves you with the heart

True love may then be the guardian of your eyes


Myles Darien